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All smiles today! |
I am a perfectionist. I hold everyone (husband, friends,
myself) and everything (house, dog, work) to the highest of standards and
buckle when things don’t turn out as envisioned. Thus parenting has been true
misery.
The idea for this post came at ten o’clock last night when
Clay was screaming his head off. Our baby is usually drifting into dreamland at
this time and is rarely unhappy – shots, late lunches, and the presence of an allergy
are his only three grievances in life. But yesterday we decided to try a different
formula (with one of his smaller food intolerances) just to see if we might get
away with a slightly cheaper alternative. By the evening our poor child had
proven we couldn’t, and we found ourselves consoling a crying two-month old
with tummy problems instead of watching Breaking
Bad.
This parenting thing is hard. Sometimes we make mistakes,
cut a few corners. And then (more difficult than anything I’ve had to do), we just
have to let it go. Move on to the next success – or slipup. After all, what
kind of stories will he have if everything in his youth is perfect? What tales
to tell Oprah?
And, more likely than not, the next morning he’ll be happily
cooing in his crib, the previous night’s calamity completely forgotten.
Note From Scott: He was crying last night? Really? Man, that Breaking Bad finale was thoroughly
engrossing.
I just read this quote: "It is easier to build a child than fix an adult." (Frederick Douglass) Hang in; your sweet baby will cure that perfectionism. That's a good thing!
ReplyDeleteSo, so true - thank you for this, Kris!
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